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As a Life Coach, I subscribe to a lead-generation service. A good number of would-be-clients list stress as a moderate to major factor in their lives. Many are overwhelmed by demands placed on them at work and home. Relationships, money, work, health issues, inequities, childcare, and competing schedules are but a few of the issues that contribute to the situation. One must wonder if this thing called work-life balance actually exists.

For the stressed-out people mentioned above, their issues are pain points. They are seeking relief. Before discussing coping mechanisms and stress reduction practices, please note that stress is a two-sided coin. On the other side of bad stress, there is good stress. You’re probably screaming: “You got to be kidding, how can stress be good?

An article found online expresses it best: Stress Management: How to Tell the Difference Between Good and Bad Stress, “You may think any type of stress is bad, but that isn’t the case. Good stress, or eustress, is the type of stress you feel when you’re excited. Your pulse quickens and your hormones surge, but there is no threat or fear.

You might feel this type of stress when you ride a roller coaster, compete in a game, or go on a first date. Good stress is short-term, and it inspires and motivates you, focuses your energy, and enhances performance.”

I have always felt stressed when starting a new job. It was difficult to leave the familiar, but I was so excited about the new opportunity. The stress I felt represented growing pains. However, that stress could have turned negative if it became overwhelming. Yes, you can have too much of a good thing.

Journaling is a tried-and-true tool that helps me deal with stress. Putting my feelings and thoughts on paper is a good way for me to keep things in the proper perspective. It enables me to generate options and focus on the things I can control. Rest, exercise, and deep breathing exercises work wonders for me. In addition, having a positive outlook is very helpful as well.

From an operational standpoint, prioritizing the activities that serve my best interests and purging those that don’t is difficult, but these decisions must be made to reduce stress.

Scheduling family meetings to discuss needs versus wants – short and long-term can help facilitate communication. Note: roles and responsibilities don’t have to be determined by gender, but by the person who is more effective in performing them.

“Remember: relationships work for those who work on them.”